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The person should continue to reflect: "Who determined that I would live in this house? Was it I, because I looked at a number of places and liked this one, or did Hashem determine it, as Chazal have said that a Heavenly voice proclaims, 'This house will go to that person'?" (Sotah 2a).

He should consider the fact that although he already knows clearly that the words of Chazal are true, he doesn't think about the concept much; it is just stored somewhere in his memory. In addition, since he doesn't think about it often, his heart doesn't sense it. The feeling that he determined it by himself is closer to his heart.

A person will thus gain a clear grasp of his condition. He knows intellectually Who determined who will be his wife and where he will live, but he has two problems: a) He doesn't think about this much. b) His heart doesn't feel it. He will then resolve to think about it more frequently and to work on similar details. He must first rectify the first problem, by at least keeping this belief alive in his mind with clear, pure and calm thought. Slowly, the concept with take root in his soul, and his heart, too, will feel it properly.
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I'm going to practice: "Who determined that I should post these threads? Was it I, because I googled various things and found hashkafa.com, or did Hashem decide it, as it says, " בַּחֵיק יוּטַל אֶת-הַגּוֹרָל וּמֵה' כָּל-מִשְׁפָּטוֹ" (Mishlei 16:33). Hashem decided this would happen and that's why the entire chain of events leading to this happened."