More or less. Non-Jews are not supposed to observe the Sabbath in the same manner as Jews, and therefore she should do at least one malacha during the day. That may be done privately, without publicizing it, though some people seem to be excited to learn that there is a convert-in-training in their community and then publicize that fact to anyone needing a "Shabbos goy." (E.g., "Oh, your stove didn't shut off; I'll grab Debbie at shul and send her over to you -- she's not Jewish yet.") I wouldn't do that, because I would feel that it's embarrassing the convert-in-training, but others think that you are giving her the opportunity to help someone.

In addition to letting someone know if he were to ask her out, there's at least one other case where it might be helpful to tell someone. I understand that it's not a problem to have a non-Jew over for a Shabbos meal, as you won't be cooking on Shabbos, but that it's more problematic to have a non-Jew over for a Yom Tov meal. Jews are allowed to cook on Yom Tov for themselves and for other Jews, but not for non-Jews. So some people are makpid not to have non-Jewish guests. I think I've heard some say that you can get around this by not making food based precisely on the number of guests, for example, not making 1/4 pound of meat for each of ten guests. But one should ask his Local Orthodox Rabbi. I have seen rabbis who did not invite their converts-in-training for a Yom Tov meal, but telling the students that it would be okay for them to accept an invitation extended by someone else.

There is a problem with having a ger in training for a Shabbos meal cos it affected us when we had one. It involves giving him from the wine (which he isn't allowed to touch) and having him partake of lechem mishnah. I can't remember exactly what happened but I remember being cringeworthily embarrassed about it, but MH just dealt with it in a matter of fact way.

why should there be a problem with the wine? a noachide can touch jewish wine and doesn't pogum it, how much more so a jew in training.

I mean, there is absolutely no concern here that he's an idolterer.

There was definitely an issue with the wine and the challah. Blowed if I can remember now.

The challah? Could you ask your husband to explain?

bump! Yoo Hoo! I asked him and got an answer!

He said the problem was that until a goy becomes Jewish he is not allowed to parttake in shiurei mitzvah; the remnants of a mitzvah.

So? Nu?

I'll ask him the minute he comes back from maariv.

ETA: OK. He said the problem was that until a goy becomes Jewish he is not allowed to parttake in shiurei mitzvah; the remnants of a mitzvah. So he wasn't allowed to have a piece of bread that came from lechem mishnah. He had to be given another piece of challah after the lechem mishnah had been distributed. As to the wine, it was mevushal, and he had his own glass and didn't drink from the becher, so there was no problem but again he had to be given some wine after MH had distributed the wine from kiddush.

I'm going to sleep so there's no need for haste, but I would appreciate at his convenience a source for that.

lyric, I would strongly suggest that your husband look back up siman 124 in yoreh deah (sif 2), and bear in mind that in a case like this, its likely that kavod habriyos prohibits us from being machmir, although I don't see why you can't pass the cut to him last and tell him to finish everything that is there, at least from the point of view of yayin netzach.

(I didn't understand fully, but I think I understood the gist of it enough to say this. please correct me if I'm wrong.)

Re yayin Netzach my husband refused even to give the sources, he said it's obvious that a goy mustn't touch non mevushal wine.

lyric, I would strongly suggest that your husband look back up siman 124 in yoreh deah (sif 2), and bear in mind that in a case like this, its likely that kavod habriyos prohibits us from being machmir, although I don't see why you can't pass the cut to him last and tell him to finish everything that is there, at least from the point of view of yayin netzach.

(I didn't understand fully, but I think I understood the gist of it enough to say this. please correct me if I'm wrong.)