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#41 Jeanette

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Posted 02 May 2008 - 04:33 PM

It may be her responsibility to be accurate, but that doesn't absolve a person from using her brain. If I am given a psak, and it makes no sense, am I absolved of responsibility to look into it further on the grounds of "He told me."?

My wife when she was engaged was told something by a kallah teacher. It was wrong*. Did she have no personal responsibility? If she just accepted the instruction blindly, would she be a tinok shenishba and absolved of any and all responsibility?


*Long story short, the rav instructed the kallah teacher to call ALL of her former students to correct the erroneous law she had been teaching heretofore.

How did she know it was wrong? What led her to believe that she was being given misinformation?

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Posted 02 May 2008 - 04:40 PM

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Posted 02 May 2008 - 04:56 PM

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Posted 02 May 2008 - 06:08 PM

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Posted 04 May 2008 - 10:03 AM

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Posted 04 May 2008 - 10:07 AM

I'm not sure about that. THM halachos are often taught one on one and practiced privately, as opposed to shabbos and kashrus which may be taught to groups, and are practiced (at least somewhat) publicly. I could see both of those as reasons why there could be more THM misinformation.


I was going to go off on some whole long rant, but what melech wrote was more concise.

Again, I don't know how I should have known to question this. The Kitzur Dinei Tahara also said not to shower your whole body after mikvah, and didn't specify how much time had to elapse between tevilah and intimacy, or if it had anything to do with intimacy. She quite specifically told me not to take a full shower after the wedding but to wash only part by part. This issue never really came up otherwise since there's usually no delay between immersion and intimacy, except maybe for very hot muggy summer nights when you get sweaty just walking home from the mikvah.

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Posted 04 May 2008 - 10:12 AM

Again, I don't know how I should have known to question this. The Kitzur Dinei Tahara also said not to shower your whole body after mikvah, and didn't specify how much time had to elapse between tevilah and intimacy, or if it had anything to do with intimacy. She quite specifically told me not to take a full shower after the wedding but to wash only part by part. This issue never really came up otherwise since there's usually no delay between immersion and intimacy, except maybe for very hot muggy summer nights when you get sweaty just walking home from the mikvah.


why would it involve any more than just taking a shower at a different time than you are generaly accustomed to? (ie on account of having gone to mikvah.)

as in if you regularly take a shower the next morning, and for some reason you haven't been together yet, why couldn't you take one the next morning?
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Posted 04 May 2008 - 11:23 AM

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Posted 04 May 2008 - 01:21 PM

They say that R' Shlomo Zalman Auerbach would take a shower before and after the mikva. When asked why he said, "I take a shower before because of V'ahavta Lre'acha K'mocha. I take a shower after because some people aren't makpid on V'ahavta Lre'acha K'mocha."
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Posted 08 May 2008 - 10:03 PM

They say that R' Shlomo Zalman Auerbach would take a shower before and after the mikva. When asked why he said, "I take a shower before because of V'ahavta Lre'acha K'mocha. I take a shower after because some people aren't makpid on V'ahavta Lre'acha K'mocha."

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