Finding where you belong is tough, but mostly because everything seems so foreign to you, that will change over time and you learn Hebrew and learn how to eat and hang out like an Israeli.
We are in RBSA for a year or two while we look for a small, centrally located Torani yishuv where we can afford a nice house. Places on our list to check out are Mitzpe Yericho, Even Shmuel, Mevo Choron. My husband wears colored shirts and doesn't have a black hat. I don't show any hair but i don't wear socks/hose in the summer. We eat Mehadrin. Our kids are too little for me to categorize us in that way - I don't know yet about army or all the dividing lines that come with school attendance. Maybe we are chardal? I want to put my daughter in a private gan for one more year before we have to make a school decision (she'll be 4 in November). Our kids' secular education is very important to us and we want to make sure they are well trained for a useful high-paying profession (not writers like my husband and I). We like the Rav Kook style. What is that called?
HD, can we come over some afternoon for a playdate? I'll call you. And I'll clean out my PM box.
K-rebbe, thanks for your nice and sympathetic message. I like you when you're nice!
There are several areas that sound like the kind of place you are looking for. you may want to check out Neria, it's a beautifyl Yishuv in Binyamin and they are building more houses there right now.